Is it ok

So my daughter has refused to speak to me after giving her the letter. My letter stated that I would not respond to constant texting about her anxiety. This would happen all throughout my work day. But, I also wanted to speak in person and not through text (not part of the letter) and she was not willing to do that so there was not a whole lot of talking going on for around 2 months. Recently I gave in in regards to texting but still not about the anxiety to try and figure out what was going on and she was back and forth. She would state that I ignored her for two months but that it had nothing to do with the letter. It had to do with not listening and ignoring. Again not very clear. It recently came out that it indeed had to do with SPACE and how I was helping. Not helping to her. My question is is it ok to repeatedly tell your child that I am doing this to help. I know it is hard but you can get through it? I am constantly being texted now that "You are hurting me", "This is emotional neglect" and that these are things and abuser would say. I respond with that I know it is hard and that I know you feel you need my help but it is within you and you have continued to get through it on your own. Do you all have any suggestions on how to respond to these things? Thank you.